Mothers of the Bride or Groom Speeches - Tips and
Ideas
If you've been asked to give a speech or make a toast, here's a few tips to help.
As it's becoming more common for the mother of the bride to give a speech , you'll want to prepare something to
help contribute towards a memorable day for the bride and groom.
Tips for giving a Mother of the Bride or Groom Speech
Prepare - make a few notes. It's strange how even the simplest of speeches can vanish from
your head when faced with a roomful of people. Have a handkerchief or tissue close by.
Be ready - have your notes to hand and don't drink too much before it's time to speak, there
will be plenty of time to enjoy a few drinks later on during the reception.
Be brief - there will be several speeches, so keep yours brief and to the point.
Smile - if you smile outwardly, you're likely to feel more relaxed on the inside and it helps
people to respond positively to what you have to say.
Make it heartfelt - speak about how you felt when she was a little girl, how proud you are of
her on her wedding day, and what you love about her personality. Consider mentioning about a special moment
with your daughter, either when she was young or more recently.
Compliment the groom - find one or two positive comments about him, whether its' how he acts
towards or with your daughter, or something that you first noticed about him. What did your daughter first tell
you about him, if it's positive or even amusing, this may be worth sharing.
Say thanks - there are so many people who work hard behind the scenes to make a wedding
happen and run smoothly. This is an opportunity to briefly thank some of your friends and family if they've
made a significant contribution to the day.
Minimise advice - you may wish to give a few words of advice, make it simple and succinct,
for example, "the best advice I was given is don't let the sun go down on your anger, I recommend that to you".
Perhaps choose one of the classic Irish blessings to read out - they have beautiful words and are most
encouraging.
Wish them a long and happy marriage - include here any brief thoughts you may have on the
subject.
Finish with a toast - this should be simple, for example, "please drink to the health and
happiness of ......... and .......... (add the couples names), the bride and groom".
Short Example Speech
Here's an brief example speech:-
"It is so lovely to see so many friends and family here today to celebrate the wedding of Jane &
Stephen , thank you all for travelling to be with us today. Thanks also to those who have helped to make this
day possible.
My daughter has been a real blessing in my life and to our family. As Jane & Stephen being their lives
together, I/we are happy to entrust my/our precious daughter to the man who has conquered her heart. I
trust that with the love you share, you will build a long and happy life together.
May I wish congratulations to you both on your wedding day. Would guests please stand and join me in
toasting the bride and groom. To the bride and groom!"
For ideas of how and what to say, here's a rather poor quality Youtube video that should give you some more
ideas:-
And finally, have a wonderful day yourself!
Recommended Resources
Pre Written Speeches - if you've left it to the last minute and need a quick
speech that you can use, you can instantly download a template
